Being 20-something...the Quarter-life Crisis

It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realising that
there are many things about yourself that you didn't know and may not
like.

You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or
two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now.

You start realising that people are selfish and that, maybe, those
friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you
have ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most
important ones.

What you don't recognise is that they are realising that too, and aren't
really cold, catty, mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as
you.


You look at your job ... and it is not even close to what you thought
you would be doing, or maybe you are looking for a job and realising that
you are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you.

Your opinions have gotten stronger.

You see what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual
because suddenly you realise that you have certain boundaries in your
life and are constantly adding things to your list of what is acceptable and
what isn't.

One minute, you are insecure and then the next, secure.

You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone
and scared and confused.

Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with
dear life, but soon realise that the past is drifting further and further
away, and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.

You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such
damage to you. Or you lie in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone
decent enough that you want to get to know better.

Or maybe you love someone but they love someone else too and cannot
figure out why you are doing this because you know that you aren't a bad
person.
One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap.

Getting wasted and acting like an idiot doesn't seem as fun.

You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk
with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a
decision.

You worry about loans, money, the future and making a life for
yourself...
and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to
be a contender!

What you may not realise is that everyone reading this relates to it.

We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we

can to figure this whole thing out.